Anyway I took him back after he promised to change etc. She was the first and only girl i had sex with i was not a popular guy in high school she was all i had and loved i was not even in my dreams, let her go without a fight in what ever form. I broke up with my ex narc in march after 16 years and 3 children. I never asked anything from him. I am 38 days No contact. we have two kids together and we are happy. He d already had it set up; I fell apart after I told her to get off my property. I did a tapping exercise a few days ago and I think it helped. Yes I get lonely but nothing will make me give in ever again! The best thing I did was no contact it has been close to 2 months. I was able to get enough money out of him this third time to purchase a small home, I went to school and became a nurse. After a week of ignoring me! Then I get a text I miss you. That is why I put up with it I was the emphasis and he knew it from the start. it takes TIME but its TOTALLY DOABLE. In a way, this kind of breakup is a narcissist's cry for help that they're not getting what they want out of the relationship (admiration, sex, control). I recall reaching my arms around him, and after that I completely blacked out, I woke up the next morning completely nude and wrapped in my comforter. It was him! I was so hurt. Sometimes theyll find a new source, but often theyll come back to you. Stay away. To God be the glory our relationship is now very tight and we both live happily again. Its been quite some time since you wrote your story on the board. The only way they can change is seriously an exorcism or having Devine interventionno lie! One day i do believe God will be the answer. After a month of, feeling like my world was over I started to look for hope anywhere I, could find it. Can totally relate to your reasoning. We cant make sense of it because we dont think/feel like they do. Ever since Dr. okaya of okayaspellhelp@yahoo.com helped me, my partner is very stable, faithful and closer to me than before. I have a newborn baby girl with a married man who is narcissist. The last time was 12 days and I fell yet again for his bullshit! Well first. A version of you thats not at all close to who you really are. Your tactic has almost certainly put them in a rageful state and theyll do anything to be back in control of the relationship. Hi Tina I was with a narcissist for over 5 years it was an emotional rollercoaster to say the least. Never again. my narcissitic ex also it is addicted to porn and on line dating sites, he lied to me also about it and he cant not accepted, but I know his addiction to porn, also he had been trying to always find his perfetct match but never find it, I had been hurt so many times, and he promissed me to change and all that, same thing we got engaged and after 3 weeks living together he started locking himself on the computer room and getting so mad and defensive when I questioned what he was doing there I turned back to my hometown and I hope to never hear from him again. Its so awesome to breathe again. Do Narcissists come back after no contact? Narcissists never go quietly into the night. In no time, back he came looking for reconcilliation. This wont go on forever. Never let your guard down and do not fall for their pretentious games..I was emotionally tortured and physically abused by my N mother for over 30 yrs of my life, and believe me, NO CHILD should have to deal with an N parent EVER! He hates to work. He is gone this time But others say he will be back I am seeking a therapist. He was cold as ice to me; it was my fault, I put him out again. She would say terrible things to me like, We said not to abort the baby, we didnt say keep it When we found out my baby was a boy he made me feel defective in some way. I was drinking heavilythey were not threatening, just dumb. He would never give me the love and respect that I deserved this time I knew I was strong enough to go I didnt even say anything to him I ignored the phone calls and I blocked him off of everything. no despite this courts gave us a shared interim. Theyll re-enter your life as if no breakup occurred. As always, this depends on a number of factors. So so many red flags and I skipped every single one of them , I have never felt pain like it , i keep having wow moments when something else falls into place , last night I realised hes been watching me on my social media on fake accounts for a year .. Its just endless , I am excited to come out the other side of this complete mind fuck and start loving me properly , I we wasnt even interested in his abnormally skinny ass to begin with !! All of it. He was in the hoovering stage again. Narcissists are like aliens parasitic aliens. Me always being I love with him I agree So that night Im driving him home he tells me hes going on a trip. I read these post and have experienced everything posted. The pathology is more common in males, Boy babies are more sensitive to the emotional input of caregivers, neglect or engulfing impacts the failure to thrive, the acquision of empathy. courts made it hard so I used the co parent tactic genuinely I wanted to co-parenting he wanted this family and relationship even though he discarded me and did all the above. makanisurfshop.com the-narcissist-after-the-break-up. If you are not strong enough to endure evil retribution, leave quietly. I used to write her every now and than, but now I really want to email her one last time since she is giving me the silent treatment. I know that the pic is innocent and that it was when she left me.. but I feel guilty for not telling her and I have started to blame myself that its all my fault. @ Paul, I wasnt dumped, he wouldnt have dared have left his woman who he totally controlled on every level.I was with him for 12 years, suffered extreme abuse..of all types from him, he wasnt getting any better, only worse. You deserve respect and true love!!! I knew that he had others, even dangerous liaisons . And to wait for him hes thinking. Well I forgive him. Then he had the nerve to excuse himself to make a phone call, comes back 15 minutes later and when I asked if it were her he called he said yes, she had called him and he was returning the call on Valentines Day! I could never get a job, for each job I had he showed up to work and in one way or another got me fired.. or I had to quit.. Karen .every detail of your story is almost exactly like mine.25 long lonely hurtful and degrading years I was married to a man who showed no concern for my well being .after he left me for the 3rd affair I chose not to take him back..my god the night mare of divorce .my eldest son was completely brainwashed as were friends and family.my eldest daughter and youngest son stayed by my side.the worst part of my story is after suffering such torment through those years you would think I would recognise the signs of an abusive man.I ended up jumping from the frying pan into the fire and had a 5 year on and off relationship with a man who in many ways was more emotional abusive than my ex husband.these type of men pray on woman freshly separated or divorced.I see now how vitally important it is to find the strength and take as much as is needed to receive professional help.so as to reflect and heal before contemplating any relationship .my involvement with these 2 men almost killed me by my own hand.my self esteem self worthmy identity were crushed I was stumbling through life numbing the confusion and shame that was inflicted on me day in and day out by these men with drugs and alcohol.I am now well on the way to recovery.for the first time in over 30 years I can look myself in a mirror and say I am proud of me and this is my life to live my son now speaks to me.it has been a long hard journey for not just me but my children as well..I am proud to say they are all loving and well adjusted adults now.I may be 50 this year but this is the begining of my life . To a woman. | Mind is gone. I AM SO DESPRATE IN NEED OF HELP TO COME OVER ALL I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I CANT ANYMORE, Great post. This is especially true if they can make it look like theyre taking you back, doing you a favor. Im terrified. I told him that I never ever wanted to see him or speak with him again. My ex-N wanted me to stay for reasons beyond my comprehension. People need research this demonic spirit to better learn whose causing this spiritual warfare in reality. I set my boundary and cut my losses early. I have potential I know you heard of this phrase, If you cant beat em, join em! I have been so unbelievably hurt at how LITTLE this breakup has affected him. Their shame complex. I would stalk his face book IG to see what hes doing because hes disappears I come to Find out he is seeing other men on trips grooming them for his next relationship. Having a good support system in place to help you handle the narcissist can help make the entire process smoother and less stressful. Then following day he tells me at breakfast that he still sees the woman, he is planning to break up off all contact, they are just friends, but knows he must do it in order to have a life with me. Wow its amazing that after 7 years being confuse and self doubting my own self by comparing my last two marriages and my, recent soon to be over with no contact, girlfriend or ex girlfriend, I was introduce to the term narcissistic. OMG its everywhere!!! I have been trying to get a divorce for over a year now from my N and though there are many reasons why the process is taking so long, he has moved back in with his mother and has temporary custody of our daughter. We found that those high in narcissistic admiration had particularly positive views of their ex-partners. I want nothing more than to stop the abuse and the continual court cases. That was a great post. Any advice or suggestions? You can;t get him out. After that, I was literally on the roller coaster of hell for the remaining of the relationship until I finally walked away a few months ago. All sociopaths are Narcissists but not all Narcissists are Sociopaths, i believe he is a Sociopath & Possibly s Psychopath seeing he gas no problem displaying his evil self. he really believe he get full custody after doing what he did to me.but I focused fully on our daughter.and myself and they comeback when you doing good. I start to realize he never lets me see him on his phone or if i tuch it he would freak out. She was able to leave u without any remorse and went on to live with her boyfriend, but the moment you wanted to have a life of your own, shes trying to come back. They might contact you several months down the road when they have a need for supply thats going unfulfilled in their current relationship, but it doesnt take long for their attention to turn elsewhere. You would be nothing without them. For a month silent he comes back. I returned home but didnt tell her that I went away. Disrespectful, continued living, other women all the time. What are the chances of this relationship being real and lasting and what are the chances of him trying to come back? I am still dealing with it due to the inability of No Contact I have learned so much over these years of how damaging the effects are It hurts when the children are also victims.. Ive been divorced for 9 years now Praise the Lord. Such a great post everything you said, just happened and by me googling my question and your website coming up with this article. Why would you say this disgusting thing about your daughter?? Oh my gosh!!! Begins the cycle again. Good on you for figuring out a strategy that works in the interim. Im living proof of it. I became anxious and nervous and paranoid to what he was doing and were he was. My apologies, wasnt meaning to write a book. Thanks for this realization. The feelings you would have in those situations are akin to how a narcissist feels when he loses someone. He ran into me at my workplace in a hospital one day when in to visit the doctor I was working for and he began to show interest in me. Its wonderful that you are getting thoughts from this article as well as from our discussion made at this place. He bought her a new car hoping she would sleep with him, when she did not he got mad. I used to be a lively person but I feel that part of me was gradually vanishing. If you look at the thread it seems the females are angry ! i hope now that i would see some of these traits earlier on in ppl, so I know how to handle myself around them.His violent rages, at home and at anywhere..were to just break me down, embarres me so I would feel even worse about myself and to give himself more authority over me.That is not love, thats abusehe wouldnt leave the marriage..i had to.When he started trying to contact me, to demand my returnhaving a catholic priest call and tell me my place was with my husband!That was his way of getting pity from ppl, his wife had left him..poor thing..hes such a good husband why would she do that? Seeking out a professional to guide you through the process is always a good idea. Then I hear nothing for weeks once again. I dont know a selfish man Ive dated that hasnt! I fell head over heels for him. He was always watching p**n when not at work or when interacting with family and friends. Cerebral narcissists are going to become so good at manipulating others. You stay strong! They won't hesitate to rip the band-aid off without considering your feelings. thank you. I know you can do it! After he says all that but has texted me saying what am I doing. Go no contact, cutting off all lines of communication. They are here to kill, steal and destroy and sadly, we are the ones left broken hearted (because we are good hearted people) and trying to pick up the pieces of our lives. Shutterstock. Somehow I want him to come back, not the idealizing fake person he was in the beginning but this sinister asshole I have come to know. However, many narcissists take the approach of acting like nothing ever happened. It involves showing off and behaving charmingly to gain the admiration of others. Hed beg to come back but then tell me it was my fault he was gone all those days because I shouldnt have put him out. Until you have dealt with someone with a NPD, you dont know how these ppl do things..they are not normal! He calls and one minute all of a sudden he wants marriage counseling and hes coming to get his family, then the next minute he wants a divorce, or everything that has happened is my fault. After two years, Ju was still living with her ex and while I made arrangements to move to her, she bought a house with her ex. Paul, I can really see where the problem here lies. He says. ( there is a difference between these two disorders ). We discussed it for a few days then the idea just was never brought up again. I was with one for 4 years married to him for 2 years. I realised over a year ago that the person I was with has N behaviour. The night he come back I took him out with my friends. I dont recognize this person I have become, I hate this person Ive become, I want myself back desperately and cannot seem to get there. I agree to go to the fair with him while Im there he says. I thought he was my knight in shining armor. He said some hurtful things and when I said he was been cruel, he replied as I am a very honest person, it is just the truth. How to win a child custody case from a Narcissist? While a fight can eventually lead to a resolution, nothing is ever solved by the silent treatment. Long story short, she tried everything to get me back, while saying that shes not trying. I dont care if I dont have a car; hed been holding the fact that I had no job or working car over my head this entire relationship. He immediately emailed me asking if I was 100% sure it was over. Never said. I work because I do not have the money to survive! So I laughed it off as though he really wanted a girl. Please reply if you read this, I need a lot of support. What intrigued me or got my attention about your post is the fact that you mentioned Pornography! No matter who left who, be thankful you are alive. Narcissists can never miss you after a breakup because they are incapable of emotions like that. When i first heard of him i never believed his powers until i emailed him, after having some conservation with him, he did a spell for me and my ex lover who promise to marry me later came back to apologize to me, today we are happily married. Just recently he told me he left my son in the care of some lady he never met, didnt know her last name or address, and I found that it was one of his girlfriends. He is afraid of the authorities so I wont see him again. In the beginning he was happy about our pregnancy. She was also very intelligent being a 30 year manager in a communications bussiness ! He lost a beautiful loving woman. I read about reproductive coercion. They'll say anything (no matter how far-fetched the lie) to get what they want. Hello. If you think that she wont change, do you feel as though I should become a narcissist? Or his laptop. I and I confront him. Ns are what you call on a spiritual level the Jezebel spirit. The only thing worse than being controlled by one is breaking things off with one. ON HER OWN> I stayed away, ALTHOUGH it was hard. He just opened his wallet and handed me $500 to go pay my bill, no questions asked. Essentially, narcissists will return to old relationships repeatedly until that former partner no longer gives them what they desireattention. I know a lot of times that word is thrown around too much to describe men that really arent narcissistic. She saw first hand of the different women going in and out of ther life, and none of his relationships lasting. The pattern of hot/ cold- love you/ you whore Well, it gets old. The abuse continues for years. Narcissists have a great way of manipulating and of course pitting your kids against you. Only 48 hours after I contacted DOCTOR SANU my husband came back to me and begged me for another chance and that he regrets ever leaving me and our son or his ex wife. Be prepared for your partner to tell everyone how you're the bad guy,whether it be among your friend group or in front of a judge. Narcissists dont have a timetable, they only have alternate sources of supply. Wouldt answer texts. ?? Get the hell out. However one the relationships ended he would revert back to harassing me and doing anything to sabotage any new relationships. Because I am a strong willed person & when I didnt agree with them the argument would always esculate to where they would end the relationship. I have tried only a few times to describe the indescribable world by jumping from incident to incident with the stories half told due to another story that meshes with the first and sounding so crazy to someone and the anxiety one feels while trying to even put into words what nobody could fathom unless they have experienced such a hell. And I know I have to let go break contact. All the best. at the age 8 and still is a suicide risk, now at age 14. good luck to all. 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